Obsessions

While in Montana over my weekend, I was thinking about criminal minds. (I was watching that particular show as well.) What we see on TV and in the news about criminal minds in the cases of obsession are the extreme sides of such behaviours. Obsession in of itself is an extremely difficult thing to deal with, not only for the object of said attentions, but also very much for the one obsessing. It is an incredibly debilitating experience, often getting in the way of what would be considered a normal life and leading to the high expences of psycho-therapy. Make no mistake, I do not think it is okay to obsess. However, one must take into consideration that, in most cases, the person doing the obsessing DOES NOT WANT TO think about the object of the obsession. Things like "getting a hobby", "going out to mingle" and other such jewels of advice simply do not work. Even therapy does not take away the seed that was planted. Nor does time erase that which precipitated the often painful experience of having unwanted thoughts popping in unexpectedly.
So my advice to anyone who is obsessing over another poor soul is: bite your lower lip and learn to live with it, because it is forever a part of our lives and rarely will the object of our obsessions succeed in turning our thoughts of them away. Oh, and don't do anything illegal because you actually do have a lot to lose whether or not you think it.